FOR MOMS WITH KIDS AGES 0-12
Create a smooth running household with kids who help out, strong family relationships, and time to do the things you want to do, too.
Discover the step-by-step systems to go from completely overwhelmed and surviving your days to taking action on what you do have control over so that you can enjoy the good of today and make tomorrow better too--in every season of motherhood.
There’s a very simple process I’ve used for years to stop surviving my days as a mom and feel like I’m thriving.
Here it is:
Step 1: Identify why I feel like I’m surviving.
Step 2: Solve the problem
Step 3: Repeat step one and two over and over again.
That’s it. It’s not any more complicated than that.
The more problems you solve, the better daily life feels, and the more you’ll enjoy motherhood.
You can build a life that you absolutely love living with that simple framework.
I have, and so have a lot of other mothers that I’ve worked with.
But I’ve found most people – including me – get stuck on the second step.
You know, the part about solving the problem.
Because there never is ONE problem.
My list used to look like this (maybe you can relate!):
It seems like whenever I make progress in one area, something else is left unattended and becomes more difficult to dig out of. It is so discouraging.
I set too many goals and feel overwhelmed by them. Even if I pick one there still isn’t any time or energy for me to work on it.
I'm overwhelmed by the house and all of the clutter that piles up. There is always stuff on the floor. When I try and clean one area, the kids mess up another part of the house.
I can’t get ahead on the housework and it always feels like a major project and frantic cleaning.
Leaving the house takes forever. Someone is always missing socks, shoes, or decent clothes to wear. Let's not even talk about the state of their hair!
I try to implement routines but I'm inconsistent and we don't stick with things for very long.
I am not good at delegating to my kids and husband…but doing it all myself doesn’t work.
There is no one to help me at home or to take the kids for even an hour or two. I'm completely on my own.
Feeding everyone and eating myself is a full time job! It’s hard to get to anything else…or I do that poorly and everything is so much harder because we are hungry!
Our days feel like they last forever. I'm watching the clock and waiting for the next nap time.
If we take time to do something fun we are left with a huge mess that no one wants to clean up.
I get so frustrated by all of the interruptions during the day.
When I take time to do something for myself I feel so guilty.
Getting enough sleep is impossible. There is always something (or someone) keeping me up at night.
Even when I take time to plan out our days, something unexpected comes up and I can’t get to the things I wanted to do.
I don't have space to even think clearly!
I'm so grouchy with my kids and I hate it, but I feel stuck in these reactive patterns.
And here’s the thing, my list of problems in managing everyday life weren't the only thing stopping me.
Often we really were in a hard season with circumstances that made making progress a real challenge:
Hard pregnancies
Chronic health conditions
Mental health struggles
Major changes like cross country moves, new jobs, new schools
Financial challenges
Life changes and adjusting to different seasons and child stages
But I discovered something amazing as we worked our way through those hard circumstances...over and over again.
There is a clear 5 Step Path From Surviving to Thriving:
Survival mode: life is bigger than you and you stop doing the normal things (pregnancy, move, job change, health challenges, etc.)
Re-entry: catching up on all the normal things you stopped doing in survival mode (dishes, laundry, house cleaning, bill paying, etc.)
Normalizing: developing family systems to get the essential and necessary tasks accomplished
Exploring: discovering what brings you and your family joy and what you want more of in your life
Thriving: developing and executing specific goals, projects, systems, and habits to create the unique life you want to live
And each one of those phases along the path have their own unique challenges and struggles.
And that's when I realized the biggest mistake I was making that was keeping me stuck in overwhelm...focusing on my whole list of problems all at the same time instead of just the ones for the phase I was in on the path from Surviving to Thriving.
Once I realized this, I spent years creating clear strategies and systems to help me navigate every phase along the path from surviving to thriving with confidence and joy.
Because that is really what I was missing...skills I needed to thrive no matter what my circumstances were.
Now when I feel like I'm surviving I follow these three simple steps:
What this process allows me to do is:
Get clear about what I do have control over and what I don’t so I can take action on the right things and let go of the rest.
Communicate clearly and work with my husband to lead our family to make real, lasting progress that helps us all and we see and feel the joy of improvement.
Develop a culture of teamwork in our family and have kids that are willing to step up, help, and become responsible and skilled in many areas of life.
Get our household running smoothly so we can do fun things together without lots of damage control after.
Create bandwidth to dream and enjoy life with my family.
Have time and energy to work on the things I want to do.
Plus it’s easily repeatable.
Which means that over the last 12 years I’ve identified dozens of problems and solutions and implemented them with my family along all five phases of the path from surviving to thriving.
Now when things get hard I don’t panic. I slow down and work through the challenges as they come and enjoy the good, every step of the way.
I’ve put together a program to walk you through those common problems and solutions in step-by-step detail along all five phases of the path from Surviving to Thriving.
It’s called the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit and it’s a complete walkthrough of all five phases along the 5 Step Path From Surviving to Thriving with systems, tips, frameworks, skills, checklists and encouragement that help you solve the problems for the season of life you are currently in.
As a homeschooling mom of 5 children, I know how easy it is to buy an online course to solve a problem and then let it sit there and never access it again.
Or make a little bit of progress on it and feel like you constantly have to go back to the beginning and start over.
I designed the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit to work for real life motherhood.
Each lesson is stand alone. You find the problem you are currently struggling with, watch that ONE lesson, take action, and celebrate your progress.
The only complete, systems driven program for moms looking to create a life they are excited to wake up to each day, no matter the season of motherhood they are in.
This is a guilt-free course that helps moms who don't have much time or bandwidth to take small steps and walk away with a win every time you sign in!
If you’ve found yourself struggling through your days as a mom…
Or you want to shortcut some of the learning curve that comes with motherhood (there are so many new skills to learn!)...
Or you’re tired of feeling like a victim and like there is nothing you can do to make your days better…
The Surviving to Thriving Toolkit is here to help!
What you get when you join.
Five modules for Survival Mode, Re-Entry, Normalizing, and Exploring plus Win Your Week Academy (6 module program) for when you are in the Thriving stage. This is a resource to return to again and again and use in bite size pieces to help you navigate the realities of motherhood and create strong family systems that support a life you want to live.
Phase 1
Manage Survival Mode with Confidence
Survival mode doesn't have to be scary or something to be dreaded. In this module you will learn how to work with your spouse and kids to navigate your days well, practical ideas for have-to's when life is hard, how to
support your kids even when you aren't at your best or available (physically, mentally, or emotionally), and how to develop a thriving mindset so you can experience joy even when life is hard. You will be equipped to turn your worst seasons into gold mines of learning, growth, and wisdom so they become something you are grateful for.
Each lesson is stand alone so you can watch one video, apply one principle, and have a better day than you were before. There's no getting behind or having to play catch up.
Phase 2
Move Through Re-Entry
Re-entry isn't for the faint of heart, but it doesn't need to be miserable or last forever. In this module I'll walk you step-by-step through the necessary re-entry tasks so you can simply execute without getting overwhelmed as well as practical ways to manage everyone's needs with your energy and current capacity. You'll also clarify your personal priorities and get clear on what to move forward on right now and what can wait. By the end of this module you'll be equipped to face re-entry head on with your husband and kids.
Phase 3
Establish Essential Normalizing Systems
The reality is there is a lot to learn when it comes to running a household! In this module I'll guide you through developing essential decluttering, organizing, tidying, cleaning, and family systems skills and mindsets for you and your family. You'll learn the four phases of home management and the five essential daily needs systems so it doesn't feel like you are putting out fires all day long.
And if you are worried that you won't be able to stick to routines or habits, trust me, I get it! Normalizing is the phase I struggled with the most and resisted the longest before figuring it out. I'll share a sustainable approach that makes it easy to do the things you want to do - for you and your kids!
phase 4
Explore With Confidence - With And Without Your Kids
Exploring is meant to be a fun phase, but it comes with some challenges. In this module we'll tackle mom guilt and how to get support from your spouse head on. We'll also address how to move from endlessly researching to taking action, how to evaluate and decide what to let go of an lean into, and how to not end up back in survival mode as you take on new things.
Phase 5
Thrive Doing the Things You Need and Want To Do with Win Your Week Academy
Congratulations on making it the Thriving Phase!! There is a lot to cover now that you are ready for the skills, systems, and mindset necessary to create a unique life that you are excited to wake up to each day. Which is why instead of another module, you'll get access to an entire course to guide you through the steps you need for success. Here's what's inside:
Clarify what you need and want to do.
How to use your energy most effectively.
How to use your time most effectively.
How to create a to-do list you can actually accomplish.
How to remove resistance and feel joy.
How to design unique family systems that last.
How to plan with your spouse.
Planning refresh exercise: what to do when life changes.
Plus Extras To
Keep You On Track
private community (no social media)
Thriving in Motherhood Collective
The hardest part about doing things in motherhood is feeling like you are all alone and nobody but you cares what you do.
But with the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit, you're not alone.
And when you purchase the Toolkit, you get access to the private group with other moms where you can ask questions, share updates and wins, and make sure that someone besides you cares if you do the things you said you would do.
exclusive ACcess
Family Systems Playbook
This is your step-by-step plan to establish the essential normalizing systems in your home WITH your family. This doesn't just tell you what to do, but how to do it. With a downloadable PDF booklet designed to guide you through the entire process as well as tidying, cleaning, and habit cards to easily communicate with your children what and how to participate in family systems, this bonus is worth the entire value of the program.
But wait!
There's more...
Exclusive access
Thriving in Motherhood Second Brain
Organize your digital life into this Second Brain template in Notion. Capture notes and tasks from your email inbox, store ideas while you are exploring, and manage your projects, habits, and goals. Includes a Habit Tracker, Task Manager, Weekly Planning, Vision to Goals, Projects, and Habits, Bucket List, Knowledge Management, Thriving in Motherhood Journal (digital), Personal Life Philosophy, Notes, Books, and Courses. This is the perfect complement to the Thriving in Motherhood Planner and allows you to be focused and efficient when using technology.
Instant Access (with more coming soon)
Family Systems Vault
I've developed many systems to help us do the things we want to do over the last 11.5 years. You'll find them here in the vault. While they might not work exactly for your family as they do for mine, I hope it gives you inspiration for what is possible.
Zone cleaning habits and boards checklists
How to make bed wetting cleanup fast, simple, and easy
Get Ready Bins
Homeschool Accountability Trackers
Homeschool Room Organization and Systems Tour
Vision Workbook for Teenagers
Home to make travelers notebook insert
Easy houseplants system
Coming Soon...
Monthly cleaning rotation job
Kitchen Cups
Family grab and go travel system
Travel food system
Daily and weekly dot habits
2nd brain book
Friday night sourdough pizza
Milk Kefir
Easy sourdough bread
Favorite green smoothies
....and more!
Instant Access
Simplify to Soar Club
We don't need to wait to start living our lives until our homes are perfect. Listen to a 10 minute audio lesson each month and focus on one simple task. Spend the next year creating a home that supports you while still living your life, developing your gifts and talents, and being present with the people you love most. This is a perfect starting place if you are in survival mode but want to make progress on your house.
Instant ACcess
Mom Matters Too
It is so easy to focus on the house systems and getting things done, but to really thrive you need to take care of you too. In this program you will design habits that stick to take care of yourself so you can enjoy the people you love without the burnout. I'll guide you through establishing these essential habits:
Time with God
Exercise
Reading
Gratitude Practice
Feeding Yourself
Technology Usage
Daily Reflection
15 Minute Tidy
The Surviving to Thriving Toolkit is the easiest way to start enjoying motherhood TODAY.
Fellow traveler on this motherhood journey,
While you may or may not be able to change the exact circumstances or limitations of your life, there are so many things you do have influence over.
Learning to see your life through the lens of what you can actually take action on and let go of the rest is a life-changing skill.
The Surviving to Thriving Toolkit is designed to guide you through the five phases of Surviving to Thriving so that you have the skills, resources, systems, and templates you need to make the hard things in life a little bit easier and more manageable.
Instead of going through the hard seasons and trying to find your way to thriving alone, you get 12 years of systems, skills, and lessons learned that empower you in your own unique hard seasons to take care of yourself, your marriage, your children, and home in simple and effective ways.
You will have clear, easy options of things to do even when you are exhausted, overwhelmed, or at your wits end that will help you not only make it through the day but make tomorrow a little bit better too.
I hope to see you inside the course.
-Jessica
Get Started with the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit today.
50% OFF
$497
All 160 Core Surviving to Thriving Toolkit and Win Your Week Academy videos with hours of in-depth step-by-step training ($3000 value)
The Family Systems Playbook including 30 additional bonus videos, PDF guide, and cleaning cards for fast and simple implementation with the whole family ($500 value)
Thriving in Motherhood Collective community ($1000 value)
Bonus: Family Systems Vault with a growing collection of systems that work well in our home as inspiration ($300 value)
Bonus: Thriving in Motherhood Second Brain Notion Template to completely organize your digital life ($150 value)
Bonus: Mom Matters Too program to establish habits that allow you to give without the burnout ($200 value)
Bonus: Simplify to Soar Club audio course to create a house that supports you ($97 value)
30 day money back guarantee
The "I Care If This Works For You" Guarantee
I know what it's like to be desperate enough or have just enough hope to put hard earned money towards solving a pain point. This last year we spent many thousands of dollars on medical bills from tests and meeting with a variety of specialists in hopes of solving some real pain points. You know what still amazes me? Whether they were helpful or not, provided value or not, after 5 minutes in a room with a doctor they charged hundreds of dollars for their “expertise” and thousands of dollars for tests.
Well good news for us both, this program is not in the medical system and I am personally convinced there is a better way: you buy the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit, use the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit, and gasp!, if it doesn't help you, you get a full refund. Just send me an email within 30 days of purchase, answer one question, "What could I have done to improve the Toolkit?", and I'll refund your purchase in full.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is there a money-back guarantee?
Yes! If you don't think this course is a good fit for you, send me an email with your answer to the question, "What could I have done to improve the Toolkit?" within 30 days of purchase and I'll refund your purchase price. I truly care if this helps you, and if it doesn't, you don't pay.
Who is this for? What ages should be kids be?
There are plenty of principles in the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit that apply no matter the ages of your kids. That being said, my oldest is 11.5 years old, so all of my practical examples, solutions, and personal experience span from baby to pre-teen.
How long do I have access to the program for?
You will have evergreen access to the course for the lifetime of the program (meaning as long as it is being hosted on the internet, it's all yours!).
Is this just for homeschoolers?
We've always been a homeschooling family so I do share my systems and what works for us in homeschool, but that is only a small part of the toolkit. I've worked with mothers for over four years with lots of different schooling situations for their kids: public school, private school, homeschool, and changing from year to year. The Surviving To Thriving Toolkit applies no matter what you choose for school.
Also, there is A LOT in the Toolkit for mothers with kids who aren't in school yet! The stage with babies, toddlers, and preschoolers is intense (and wonderful!) and everything in the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit I wished I had in those early years.
What kind of support do I have in applying the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit to my own life?
You have access to the Thriving in Motherhood Collective, an online community that is self hosted (meaning it isn't on social media). If you'd like more support, you can join us in our monthly Soaring Mother Society group coaching program.
I'm still not sure if this is a good fit for me...
Totally fine! Send me an email at [email protected] and I'm happy to answer all your questions so you can make a decision you feel good about.
Is this for a specific faith background or religion?
We have moms from all over the world from all different faith backgrounds and religions participate in the courses and programs associated with Thriving in Motherhood--and that is very intentional. I am a Christian and God is a very big part of my life, so I do talk about Him in this program. But I keep it general in relation to God and you can adapt it to your own faith and belief system. I love gathering with other women from all faiths and beliefs and learning from and being inspired by you!
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